So I’ve been looking at ways to be more positive and productive, and ways to improve myself. I was having a look at “30 day challenges” on Pinterest mainly just for fun (Pinterest is by the way one of my favourite ways to procrastinate). Squat challenges, planking, photo challenges, self-care challenges, writing challenges, the list goes on. The writing ones gave me some ideas for blog posts, but rather than write 30 separate posts, I picked a few of the questions and made them into one post. And I’ve always loved filling out things like this.
So, here we are. A random post about me. Random facts, ‘interesting’ info, and some real insights into who I am and what makes me happy/scared/inspired/influenced etc. etc.
10 things that make you really happy:
- Spending time with my parents
- Spending time with Matt
- Real, honest, deep conversation
- Laughing until your insides hurt with good friends
- Being on holiday
- Being on a beach (preferably a sunny one!)
- Feeling appreciated
- Sleeping and/or lying in bed
- Books or TV shows that you can really relate to/connect to
Five places you want to visit:
- China (great wall)
Five ways to win your heart:
- Bring me chocolate
- Be honest
- Take me on holiday
- Take me to a beach
- Let me sleep
Something someone told you about yourself that you never forgot:
- Sharon telling me that the song “Read all about it” by Emeli Sandi reminds her of me as (apparently!) I’ve got so much good to say but I don’t always say it. She told me she was excited to see me becoming more confident because everyone deserved to see what she’d been privileged to see now she had gotten to know me better.
- I’ve always remembered it for several reasons, but mainly because it made me believe in myself and be braver to be exactly that.
3 pet peeves:
- Any kind of eating noise
- People who use the word ‘sick’ to describe having a cold or flu
- Using old fashioned/out of date language or rules just for the sake of it (example: using words like ‘furlough’ and ‘cartridge’ in the Salvation Army in the 21st century. I know why we do it, but seriously, just call it holiday and offering/collection!!)
Write about someone who inspires you
- My Grandpa
- He is 83, and has more energy than I do at 23. He is constantly out and about, always on the go, and spends a huge amount of his time giving to others. He’s always visiting people who are ill or can’t get out or just need a friend, or giving his time to help people in any number of ways. He inspires me to be better and be more giving and generous.
List 10 songs you love
- For Good – Wicked
- How to save a life – The Fray
- Blessings – Laura Story
- The Story – Brandi Carlisle
- Chasing Cars – Snow Patrol
- He will not let go – Laura Story
- Keep Breathing – Ingrid Michaelson
- Just like heaven – Katie Melua
- Read all about it – Emeli Sandi
- I Am – Nichole Nordeman
Something you struggle with:
- Confidence – being nervous/anxious for things
Something you dream of doing:
- Swimming with turtles in the wild (and might be able to do it on our honeymoon!!!)
Words of wisdom that speak to you:
I really struggled with this question because there are SO many quotes and ‘words of wisdom’ that I love.
- ‘Everything happens for a reason’ – love the idea, but not always sure I agree with it
- “I hope you know you’re capable and brave and significant. Even when it feels like you’re not” – This definitely speaks to me.
- “Be an encourager, the world already has enough critics”
- “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about” – Too true!
Something you always think “What if..” about:
- What if I can’t do this?! (With ‘this’ being just about anything!!)
Favourite movies you never get tired of watching:
- Mrs Doubtfire
- Home Alone 1&2
- Just Like Heaven
- Forrest Gump
- Many Disney or Pixar films
Something that you miss:
- School homework (random yes, but it was routine and had instructions and I preferred that to uni work!)
- But right now, My Grandpa, as it’s 11 years today since he passed away. Can’t believe it’s been so long, and I really wish he were here today to see who I’ve become and what I’m up to. I hope he’d be proud.
5 Books on your bookshelf right now:
- How to be here – Rob Bell
- The God Delusion – Richard Dawkins
- The Diary of Anne Frank
- One flew over the cuckoo’s nest – Ken Kesey
- Sane New World – Ruby Wax
3 things that make you laugh out loud:
- Miranda (tv show)
- Friends (tv show), even after all this time!
- My little pal Sophie!
Five greatest accomplishments so far:
- School Exam results – they may not really matter now, but I was hugely proud of them at the time. 8 1’s at standard grade, 6 higher A’s, 2 B’s and an advanced higher A. (if only I could get that many A’s at uni!!!)
- Making it through my psychology uni degree – we started with around 600 on the course, and only about 150 I think now remain in 4th I’m proud to be one of them. (And will be prouder if/once I graduate!!)
- Being on Junior Camp staff – this is a random one and for most people would not be an achievement, but given how shy I’ve always been, it was a huge deal for me.
- Playing a trumpet solo at my final school concert in Hamilton Town Hall (seats about 800 I think?) – standing on that stage on my own, with just the piano to accompany me, was petrifying. I still can’t quite believe I managed it. (Although I’m still annoyed by that one note I split…)
- This is only 4… but i’m struggling to come up with a fifth!
10 people who have influenced you and how (all of these people have influenced me in way more ways than what I’ve mentioned – as have many many more people – but trying to keep it brief!)
- Dad – seems obvious that your parents would influence you, and mine have for the better in many, many ways. But the value I always think I learn the most from my dad is to be generous. Not just in terms of money, but in terms of your time too.
- Mum – again I have been influenced in more ways than I’ll realise by my mum, but most of all she shows me how important it is to care about people, and to support people, particularly when they need it most.
- Matt – over the past 9 years his outgoing, extroverted personality has rubbed off a bit and has helped me become less shy and much more confidant. It’s the most cliché phrase, but I really would be a much different, lesser version of myself today if it hadn’t been for his influence.
- Rachel – has influenced me by never giving up on me. She’s seen every side of me; good, bad and in-between, and has always stuck by me and this has in turn taught me to do the same with other people too.
- Sharon – has influenced me by always making time for me – being there for me and listening to my endless moans and dramas and worries. She’s always encouraged me to be confident in who I am and not settle for less than I deserve or am capable of.
- Hannah – my dad’s cousin’s daughter. We’ve only ever met each other twice I think, but my Nana introduced us and we used to email and MSN back and forth lots as teenagers. I haven’t seen her in years but do keep up to date on Facebook, and she constantly inspires me. (And probably has no clue!!) She has had some rough things to cope with in recent years, but is always positive, full of smiles and full of love for everyone. Her FB posts and Snapchats always make me smile, and remind me to try to find joy in everything.
- Grandparents – I am fortunate enough to still have two of them living today, but the main influence I’ve always felt from all four of them was in terms of commitment. They were all fiercely loyal and committed to the Salvation Army in particular, and I admire that trait in them. My Nana was immensely proud to be the first female in the band at Hamilton, and my Gran recently received commendation for being in the choir for 60 years! At 83, my grandpa still attends every Sunday, plays in the band, helps with the accounting and stands in the town centre selling the papers. I struggle to have that level of commitment and I’m 60 years younger than he is. I am inspired by their commitment.
- David – Has influenced me by his sheer kindness. It always amazes me how selflessly kind and generous he is, and it always inspires me to be a better person, and friend.
- Fiona – Initially she influenced me by making me realise just how much of an influence I can have on people, which made me conscious and more aware of how I behave and act. As we’ve become closer, she’s influenced me by showing me time and time again how to be strong, and how to be a great friend.
- Adam – has influenced me by showing me what it’s like to be truly passionate about something, and to follow that passion. And he reminds me to find the potential good, both in myself and others.
5 weaknesses I have:
- Lack of confidence in myself and abilities
- Excessive worrying
- Tendency to give up on things
5 Strengths: (why are strengths always much harder to come up with than weaknesses?!)
- Perceptive of other people’s feelings
- Passionate about people
If you had one superpower, what would it be and why?
- Telepathy, without a doubt
- I would love to be able to hear/see what people are thinking. Not necessarily because I’m nosey (although I’d be lying to say that wouldn’t be part of it!), but mainly to see if what goes through my head is remotely similar to what other people think about! Plus, if you could know what other people really did think of you, it would remove the annoying habit of worrying what people think.
What is the thing you most wish you were great at?
- My instant response is to say ‘anything’. Not out of self-pity, but because I’d really love to be great/excellent/amazing at something. Anything. I’m decent at a few things, and maybe a tad above average at the odd thing, but I’m not great at anything. Or I don’t think so.
- For a more concrete response, I’d say playing the Piano. Or any instrument actually. I learned the keyboard as a child (even sat exams up until grade 5!), but for some bizarre reason, I chose this over the piano. (why?!!) Matt and I have agreed to buy a piano once we’re in the house, and I’m excited to learn how to play it properly.
What do you think people misunderstand about you the most?
- I think people may assume that because I’m quiet, shy, and introverted, that I’m unfriendly and don’t like to talk. But that’s not true at all.
- I actually love talking, if it’s something I’m passionate about, or with people I’m really comfortable around.
List 10 things you would tell your 16-year old self if you could:
- Stop trying so hard to be someone so different from who you are
- Stop trying so hard to make people like you
- Spend less time worrying about what everyone thinks of you
- Have more confidence
- Start (and keep up) more hobbies
- Have more fun
- Learn more about God/Christianity/your own faith before becoming a senior soldier
- Learn how to use straighteners properly, and stop getting a fringe cut back in
- Don’t eat nuts – you’ve got an allergy you’ve not discovered yet
- Figure out what you’re passionate about and go after it (i.e. don’t go to uni to study business, you’ll hate it)
Five questions you wish you had the answers to:
- Is god real/really there?
- If so, how do you really experience him/connect to him?
- What really happens when you die?
- Do other people really overthink things the way I do?
- What kind of job/career am I going to have?
What are you excited about?
- Getting married and living with Matt in our beautiful new house
- As well as being scared, I’m excited to finish uni and start figuring out where my life is going to go next